not a poem/but thought

Sometimes when we are in love we find ourselves thinking the wrong. I will give you my take on some examples:

I love them enough that they must love me/i love them so much that one day they will see i am all they need

Truth: all they see is that u will take whatever they dish out. and yes it may bother them to hurt you but they wont stop cuz u give them no reason to. and it isnt hurt they feel its guilt. but guilt is a small price to pay in order to do what they want. they see u are there and they may even see u love them more than u love urself. but that dont mean they stop. and all it does it beat u down. u looked at urself and question who u are and why cant they be happy with u. they tell you all the apologies in the world to keep u there. i love u. i only slept with that person two times. i dont know whats wrong with me. it was retarded of me. and u continue to love them and give them more of u hoping it is enuff.hahaha...u are making urself out to become a security blanket. someone they know they can come back to. and u can break up and leave them but whats the point if u are going to take them back. when u take them back they are just going to do it again. if they did it once then they didnt care in the first place.

i can change them/they love me enuff to change for me

truth: people dont change they get better at being who they are. u can never change someone but u can change the person u are with. if the person u are with doesnt have all qualities you are looking for lose them now. u cant change or mold them into what u want. they have been who they are longer than u have known them. they are not going to change because of u. what they will do is let u see what they want u to see. so truth be told u are living a lie. they will stop going out as much but thats temporary.

they are different with me

truth: the same way u got them is the same way u loose them. cliche but true...if they had someone when they got with u they will get someone else while they are with u. if u had to run ppl off for them to be with u someone will run u off. if u had to manipulate to get them u will be manipulating your whole relationship to keep them...

they are the most wonderful person i've met

truth: u are dating their representative. if u have been dating them less than a year and half then u dont know them. shit i was with someone for a decade of my life and didnt really know them til i was six years in and we had a baby. u never really know someone til its been a year and a half, yall have a place together and real life starts kicking in, bills start showing up and then u see the real them.

for now this is all i have to saw on my vent